Don’t Compare Yourself!

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Have you ever found yourself doing this? Have you ever compared your body to someone else’s and started to feel disgusted with yourself? Have you ever seen pictures people post on Facebook, the ones where people are on some sort of exotic vacation, looking like they don’t have a care in the world? Maybe you’ve heard someone talking about their 10,000 sq ft. home with its indoor pool and walk-in closet the size of your entire living room? Have you ever watched a couple act so happy and ‘lovey dovey’ out in public that you start questioning your own relationship? I think we’ve probably all been guilty of this at one point in time or another Why do we do this? Why do we compare what we have, what we look like and what our lives are like with other people? When we compare ourselves to other people it alters the way we think about ourselves. Suddenly we’re not skinny enough, not well traveled enough, not rich enough, not in love enough. The funny thing is…our view of others is very rarely the correct view. You never know other people’s circumstances and you’re doing yourself a huge injustice when you judge and compare yourself by the outward appearance of others. If you were able to see beyond the surface you might find that the girl who is so thin, has an eating disorder…the family smiling for the cameras while on vacation might be a family dealing with abuse beyond the public eye, the people who seem to be living a life if luxury might be on the verge of bankruptcy and that couple who makes you sick because they seem so in love and perfect together, might have a very destructive relationship filled with lies and infidelity behind closed doors (I know because I was in that kind of relationship). You are enough. Your life is enough. What you have is enough. The way you look is enough. QUIT comparing yourself. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do something to change your circumstances if you’re unhappy with them. If you want to be healthier and thinner, work out and eat right. If you want to go on exotic vacations, book one! If having a huge home is important to you then work hard so that you’re able to afford one. If you’re unhappy in your relationship then make a change, if it’s unhealthy and/or abusive….leave. But everything you choose to do, do for yourself. Do it because you want to better yourself for YOU…not because you think you need to change to be like someone else. Don’t let comparison be the thief of your joy.

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Nature

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My very favorite thing to do, any day and any time of the year, is to spend time in the great outdoors. I can hike all afternoon, in total silence, sit by a river and spend hours just listening to the rushing of the water, watching it flow. There’s just something about nature, both the complexity and the simplicity of it, that connects with my soul. I had a very long week but today is 65ยฐ & breezy, I’m in the middle of a green forested area with just the tips of the leaves starting to take on Autumn’s hues, it’s time to refresh my spirit and get ready to rise and grind again tomorrow. What do you to to relax and unwind?

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Dreamer or Doer?

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So, question of the day: What are you going to accomplish if all you do is dream about your future? Nothing! Turn your dreams into plans then put your plans into action. Successful people don’t sit around and wish for their dreams to come true,  they go out and MAKE their dreams come true. You absolutely cannot have success without putting in time and hard work. LOTS of time and LOTS of hard work. So, which person are you…the dreamer or the doer?! 

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Buh-Bye

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Good morning, everyone!  Do you know what today is? Today is the perfect day to wave goodbye to your naysayers as you continue on your road to success. Don’t allow anybody to discourage you or hold you back from accomplishing your goals. Turn a deaf ear to the negativity. Keep your eyes on the prize.

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Smile!

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Thought for the day: Smile more!
When I’m out and about during the day I have the tendency to focus on whatever task needs to be done and I don’t always look around, make eye contact with people or smile. It’s something I’m working on. I have to make a conscious effort to get out of my own head and engage, even if it’s just giving someone a little smile but I’ve come to realize…my smile might be the only smile someone sees today. It doesn’t take much effort and it might be just what someone else needs to see in order to change their day around. PLUS….it’s a good way to brighten my own day. So,  SMILE! 😆

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Get Out of Your Own Way!

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Yes! This is something to always remember.  You are your own worst enemy. Quit making excuses. Quit trying to wait for the ‘right moment.’ Quit allowing one more thing to stand in front of the action you know you need to take in order to be successful. The time to start on your path to success is right NOW. Get out of your own way!

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I Remember

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Do you remember where you were when the Twin Towers were hit? Were you watching as they crumbled down? At that time I was at Ft. Campbell, KY…I remember still being in bed when my mom called to see if I had seen what was going on in the news. It was a bunch of confusion….I turned the news on while my mom was telling me about a plane hitting the first tower…as I was listening to her, we were both watching the t.v. as the second tower was hit. Silence. Shock. Then the realization that those crashes were no accident. Watching it all unfold on t.v., the horror and panick. I’ll never forget that day.  I was home with my son, a baby, I held him tight and cried with the rest of the nation. It was one of the saddest days in our nations recent history, yet I remember how everyone, no matter what race, religion, financial bracket, sex….we all worked together to donate finances, time, effort, support to those that lost loved ones, we stood as a nation, undivided. It amazed me that something so beautiful could come out of something so horrific. It would be nice if we could all show that same kind of solidarity in spirit, on a daily basis, without needing a tragedy to bring it about. Over 6,000 people were injured and 2,977 victims, including the brave men and women of the fire departments that went in to help, died between the 4 terrorist attacks that day. 9/11 is a day I will never forget.

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A Mess Transformed

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Yep! People didn’t realize how disappointed I was in my life, they had no idea the hurt I was feeling or the anger that was simmering just beneath my surface. I was a great actress. The reality was….I was a complete mess, a walking disaster! I had let my circumstances defeat me. I became hard and resentful. I was a shell of the person I had once been before I let my marital situation control my emotions and attitude. I couldn’t remember what it felt like to be at peace.

Life can either push you over the edge, numb you or bring you to your knees.  I’ve been to the edge, I didn’t like the view. I’ve been numb, it didn’t do me any good. I was finally brought back to my knees and I was given hope, peace, love, comfort…all these things that I knew I could have had, long before, if I would have just given God control of my life again. I wasted so many years being stubborn and bitter but I guess I needed to hit rock bottom so hard that the only choice I had left was to look up. Once I raised my eyes and focused on God….my transformation began.

I’ve been through so much in the past year and a half that many people would have just thrown their hands in the air and given up. I get told all the time how people admire my strength and perseverance and how they can’t believe that I can still have such a cheerful attitude after all I’ve gone through. It’s NOT me. It’s a God thing. I could not have made it through all of the trials that were sent my way had I not given God control.

I still have days where I struggle to remain cheerful. I still have times where I cry out to God and ask Him “why me?!” There are still moments where I’d like nothing more than to curl up into a ball and cry. What keeps me going is the hope I’m consistently given when I’m feeling my weakest and the knowledge that God has great things in store for me.

“For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Jeremiah 29:11

Every time I think I can’t possibly handle another disappointed or another hardship, God blesses me in a way that I can’t deny Him and He reminds me that HE’S GOT THIS!

I don’t always understand why things are allowed to happen in my life the way they do, I don’t know exactly what God has in store for my future, all I know is that His blessings continue to show His faithfulness, His timing is always perfect and His plans for my life are HUGE. I’m so unbelievably happy that I allowed Him back into my life and gave Him back the control.

The power of God is absolutely amazing!

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The Entrepreneur Caterpillar

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Not everything great comes easily or quickly. Sometimes a caterpillar takes a month to metamorphosis into a gorgeous butterfly,  sometimes it takes a year; no matter the length, it takes a lot of nourishment, hard work, growth and patience in order to reach the final product.  For entrepreneurs going from caterpillar to butterfly is a constant work in progress. You want your business and/or product to flourish and be awe inspiring, and it will be…but it takes a lot of hard work, constant learning and evolving and patience. Lots of patience. Don’t give up before the world gets a chance to see your final product. Put in the time and hard work and your ‘butterfly’ will emerge. I guess that analogy could also be given for life, in general ๐Ÿ™‚

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